When Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg gave a TED talk in 2010, one of the issues she talked about – and later expounded on in her 2011 commencement speech at Barnard—was likability. “Success and likability are positively correlated for men and negatively correlated for women,” she said. This isn’t news to feminists, so what I can’t figure out is why – despite deep knowledge of this pervasive double standard – so many women still insist on being likable, often to their own detriment.
how do you raise a prodigy? – škoda, že píšu hlavne o hudbe; ešte zaujímavejšie by to bolo, keby sa viac venovali aj iným druhom nadania
Musicians often talked to me about whether you achieve brilliance on the violin by practicing for hours every day or by reading Shakespeare, learning physics and falling in love. “Maturity, in music and in life, has to be earned by living,”
Studying their families, I gradually recognized that all parenting is guesswork, and that difference of any kind, positive or negative, makes the guessing harder. That insight has largely shaped me as a father. I don’t think I would love my children more if they could play Rachmaninoff’s Third, and I hope I wouldn’t love them less for having that consuming skill, any more than I would if they were affected with a chronic illness. But I am frankly relieved that so far, they show no such uncanny aptitude.