Maybe females don’t like playing zero sum games… How do we know that the reason is ‘lack of confidence’? Maybe women are less likely to see winning as a desirable goal. They might prefer to be partners instead of competitors. But when it comes to competing with her past self, a better performance can be viewed as ‘growth’ rather than leaving someone behind in the dust.
Advise low‑risk multiparous [and nulliparous with additional explanation] women that planning to give birth at home or in a midwifery‑led unit (freestanding or alongside) is particularly suitable for them because the rate of interventions is lower and the outcome for the baby is no different compared with an obstetric unit.
ovce.sk – projekt, na ktorom sa podieľala moja sesternica, sa zameriava na bezpečnosť detí a mládeže, najmä na riziká internetu, mobilov a nových technológií. Pre nižšiu vekovú kategóriu detí projekt pôsobí ako prevencia, mládeži vtipne nastavuje zrkadlo ich nevhodného správania sa a dospelých chce projekt poučiť. Okrem iného sú jeho súčasťou takéto kratučké rozprávky:
…the Linux philosophy is “laugh in the face of danger”. Oops. Wrong one. “Do it yourself”. That’s it.
Really, I’m not out to destroy Microsoft. That will just be a completely unintentional side effect.
Theory and practice sometimes clash. And when that happens, theory loses. Every single time.
Software is like sex; it’s better when it’s free.
This conversation is how, after five months of marriage, eight months of being engaged, and another year of whatever the hell we were doing before we got engaged, I realized I don’t trust my wife.
When the concept of trust is brought up, it’s usually framed in the context of actions; of what we think a person is capable of doing. If you trust someone, it means you trust them not to cheat. Or steal. Or lie. Or smother you in your sleep. By this measure, I definitely trust my wife. I trust the shit out of her. I also trust her opinions about important things. I trusted that she’d make a great wife, and a trust that she’ll be a great mother. And I trust that her manicotti won’t kill me.
But you know what I don’t really trust? What I’ve never actually trusted with any women I’ve been with? Her feelings.
If she approaches me pissed about something, my first reaction is “What’s wrong?”
My typical second reaction? Before she even gets the opportunity to tell me what’s wrong? “She’s probably overreacting.”
My typical third reaction? After she expresses what’s wrong? “Ok. I hear what you’re saying, and I’ll help. But whatever you’re upset about probably really isn’t that serious.”
I’m both smart and sane, so I don’t actually say any of this aloud. But I am often thinking it. Until she convinces me otherwise, I assume that her emotional reaction to a situation is disproportionate to my opinion of what level of emotional reaction the situation calls for. Basically, if she’s on eight, I assume the situation is really a six.
Mayim Bialik, ktorá mimochodom aj v skutočnom živote má PhD v neuroscience, hrá Amy v seriáli Big Bang Theory. Tu je s ňou jedno fajn interview a komentár k tomu, že počas jazdy v newyorskom metre kojila syna, ktorý už nie je úplne malé bábätko:
What I like to point out is that was the best way for that subway ride to be pleasant for everyone.
Fahrenheit 451 is a novel about a dystopian future where books are outlawed and firemen burn any house that contains them. The story is about suppressing ideas, and about how television destroys interest in reading literature. I wanted to spread the book-burning message to the book itself. The book’s spine is screen-printed with a matchbook striking paper surface, so the book itself can be burned.
Program allows people to play chess against younger versions of world champion Magnus Carlsen… The aim is to promote chess among as many people as possible to make the sport more popular and accessible. “The good thing is that you can play me at any age. At age five, anyone has a chance to beat me,” Mr Carlsen said.
So what is it like for Mr Carlsen to play against his younger self? “He is really tricky,” the champion said. “Even Magnus at 11 years old was a very gifted tactician. A while ago I played as a test Magnus [aged] 14. I outplayed him at some point positionally. And just boom, boom, he tricked me tactically. “But he makes mistakes as well, so I just have to be patient.”
We enter the meditative state induced by counting laps, and observe the subtle play of light as the sun moves across the lanes. We sing songs, or make to-do lists, or fantasize about what we’re going to eat for breakfast. Submersion creates the space to be free, to stretch, without having to contend with constant external chatter. It creates internal quiet, too.
Ak je to príliš rýchle, tu sú slová (zvýraznenie moje):
I thought it was ok
I could understand their reasons
They said ‘There might be a man or a nervous child seeing’
this small piece of flesh that they weren’t quite expecting
so I whispered and tiptoed with nervous discretion.
But after six months of her life sat sitting on lids
Sipping on her milk nostrils sniffing up piss
Trying not to bang her head on toilet roll dispensers
I wonder whether these public loo feeds offend her?
Cos I’m getting tired of discretion and being ‘polite’ as my baby’s first sips are drowned drenched in shite,
I spent the first feeding months of her beautiful life
Feeling nervous and awkward and wanting everything right.
Surrounded by family until I stepped out the house
It took me eight weeks to get the confidence to go into town
Now the comments around me cut like a knife
As I rush into toilet cubicles feeling nothing like nice.
Because I’m giving her milk that’s not in a bottle
Wishing the cocaine generation white powder would topple
I see pyramid sales pitches across our green globe
and female breasts banned. Unless they’re out just for show.
And the more I go out, the more I can’t stand it,
I walk into town feel I’m surrounded by bandits
Cos in this country of billboards covered in ‘tits’
and family newsagents’ magazines full of it
Whsmith top shelves out for men – Why don’t you complain about them then? In this country of billboards covered in ‘tits’ and family newsagents magazines full of it Whsmith top shelves out for men, I’m getting embarrassed In case a small flash of flesh might offend. And I’m mot trying to ‘parade’ this, I don’t want to make a show But when I’m told I’d be better just staying at home And when another friend I know is thrown off a bus And another woman told to get out the pub Even my grandma said maybe I was ‘sexing it up’. And I’m sure the milk makers love all this fuss All the cussing and worry and looks of disgust As another mother turns from nipples to powder Ashamed or embarrassed by comments around her and
As I hold her head up and pull my cardy across and she sips on the liquor made by everyones God, I think
For God sake, Jesus drank it
So did Sidhartha, Muhammed and Moses and both of their fathers
Ganesh and Shiva and Brighid and Buddha and I’m sure they weren’t doing it sniffing up piss as their mothers sat embarassed on cold toilet lids
In a country of billboards covered in ‘tits’
In a country of low cut tops cleavage and skin
In a country of cloth bags and recycling bins and as I desperately try to take all of it in,
I hold her head up
I can’t get my head round
The anger towards us and not to the sounds
of lorries offloading formula milk
into countries where water runs dripping in filth
In towns where breasts are oasis of life
now dried up in two for one offers, enticed by labels and logos and gold standard rights
claiming ‘breastmilk is healthier powdered and white’
packaged and branded and sold at a price so that nothing is free in this money fuelled life.
Which is fine
If you need it or prefer and can afford to use bottles, where water is clean and bacteria boiled,
but in towns where they drown in pollution and sewage
bottled kids die and they knew that they’d do it
In families where pennies are savoured like sweets
We’re now paying for one thing that’s always been free
In villages empty of hospital beds
babies die, diarrhoea fuelled that breastmilk would end
So no more will I sit on these cold toilet lids
No matter how embarrassed I feel as she sips
Cos in this country of billboards covered in ‘tits’
I think I should try to get used to this.
Aj som sa tento týždeň chystala niečo napísať o profesorke, ktorá kojila na prednáške, ale natrafila som na tento výborný článok (aj obrázok je odtiaľ), ktorý zahŕňa nielen moje komentáre ale aj postrehy, ktoré ma nenapadli, tak vám ponúkam rovno ten.
In short, it seems to me that Pine did absolutely everything she could reasonably do to prevent the baby from interfering with her class. To ask more of her than that is unreasonable. What we should do, instead, is realize that it’s not a big deal to have to be in the same room as a baby once in a while. It might not be ideal. If the baby screams or cries, that’s annoying. But we’re grown-ups (or at least, we’re college students learning to become grown-ups). We should be able to deal with it graciously and then forget about it. That’s what life is like in a society in which women – even mothers with babies — are equal members of society. That’s what life is like in a society which accepts that babies are part of life.
Male Scientist Balancing Act – začala som čítať s nádejou, ale tá sa rozplynula hneď pri prvom odstavci… Idú zisťovať, ako ženy v akadémii hľadajú rovnováhu medzi kariérou a rodinou. Ako? Opýtajú sa mužov.
The twenty-three-year-old is the highest ranked weightlifter in the country, beat out every female and male American at the world championships last year, and can lift more than 568 pounds–which is apparently equivalent to one large adult male lion. And yet Robles scraps by on $400 a month from U.S.A. Weightlifting and donations from friends because she doesn’t the kind of body that secures lucrative endorsement deals.
We found that employed husbands in traditional marriages, compared to those in modern marriages, tend to (a) view the presence of women in the workplace unfavorably, (b) perceive that organizations with higher numbers of female employees are operating less smoothly, (c) find organizations with female leaders as relatively unattractive, and (d) deny, more frequently, qualified female employees opportunities for promotion.
I’m not condoning rape, obviously—you should never rape anyone. Unless you have a reason, like if you want to fuck somebody and they won’t let you.
Dobre, možno si to nerobí srandu z obete ale spoločnosti, ktorá takéto správanie dostatočne neodsudzuje… ale aj tak mám nepríjemný pocit z toho, že sú muži, ktorí sa nebudú smiať z tohto dôvodu ale preto, že sa viac či menej v takejto situácii ocitli…