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Meryl Streep je výborná:

Sara Bareilles tiež:

why mom’s time is different from dad’s time (Wall Street Journal)

They found that while leisure time went a long way toward relaxing fathers, it did far less to subdue anxiety in mothers. So what, you may ask, did calm the mothers. Simple: Seeing their husbands make a bigger effort to reduce the pandemonium in the house.

ako mohol vyzerať Twilight, keby Bella občas trochu rozmýšľala a nebolo by ju treba stále zachraňovať – Twilight funfiction (Luminosity)

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V poslednej dobe som natrafila na kopu work-life balance článkov, ale veľa z nich sa mi zdá nanič. Toto je naopak jeden z tých, ktoré stoja za prečítanie.

a problem of all people–the economy, stupid–is turned into a problem of women. And when women can’t magically solve this problem, any choice they make is given a negative moral weight. The media-concocted mommy wars (which Warner is a long-time participant in) rely on attributing moral judgment to acts that are more often financial survival. Warner uses the word “haunted” multiple times to describe their feelings, and attributes this to their inability to use their “prodigious powers of control” on all aspects of their lives, as if by choosing to opt out they’d given up control. Most women don’t have anything like an actual choice, and even the ones who do shouldn’t be blamed for having only the options they have.

Ako ostať priatelia, keď nemáte deti a vaši priatelia majú

There is a secret to maintaining your friendships, and I am entirely serious about this: when a friend has a kid, assume that you will see that friend primarily, perhaps only, for dinner at their house or apartment for the next seven to ten years. If they have more than one kid, the clock resets with each new one. Oh, and most of the time, you have to invite yourself over. And you may have to bring the food.

Do yourself a favor: travel solo at least once

solo exploration is one of the best ways to learn and challenge oneself. It’s a great way to re-center, to escape from the details of daily life that can distract us from our own big picture and to come back with a new sense of self-sufficiency and purpose. And “solo exploration” doesn’t have to mean a ticket to Thailand. It can be an hour of quiet meditation, a regular dinner out, a beer at your favorite bar, your morning run down a new route, an evening in a dark movie theater. It means doing something alone that you’d usually do paired, in a way that forces you to make all the decisions and simply be with yourself.

‘A beautiful body’ project

“We are facing an epidemic of women who feel unworthy of being called beautiful,” Beall told HuffPost, describing a world in which “nearly all of us struggle to feel beautiful in our own skin.” And the expectations faced by women who have given birth are particularly harsh. “Shaming mothers for not ‘bouncing back’ after childbirth can cause feelings of failure when being a mother is challenging enough and when a big number of us have already lived a life of feeling un-beautiful prior to giving birth,” she says.

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Joya Misra o materstve a nerovnosti

Motherhood is now a greater predictor of wage inequality than gender in the United States.

odtiaľto

a potom si prečítajte toto: odpoveď na list z Harvardu o zladení profesionálneho života s rodinnými povinnosťami

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The Sad, Beautiful Fact That We’re All Going To Miss Almost Everything

If “well-read” means “not missing anything,” then nobody has a chance. If “well-read” means “making a genuine effort to explore thoughtfully,” then yes, we can all be well-read. But what we’ve seen is always going to be a very small cup dipped out of a very big ocean, and turning your back on the ocean to stare into the cup can’t change that.

čo pláva v bazénoch – čo poviete, ako sú na tom podľa vašich odhadov tie slovenské?

sisterly kill-ink – perfektné čítanie

I would like to file a complaint about a certain someone’s lunch-eating habits. This certain someone is named Kallan, and she goes by the identity of younger sister of The Maj. I am deeply concerned about this girl-child’s eating habits. Please read this letter with an open mind, and hold your hat down tight because the open mind? It will be blown.

a ešte niečo na pobavenie

rozhovor s inšpirujúcou ženou Slovenska 2013, Gabikou Janovičovou

úžasné šperky (ja som sa nechala zlákať a objednala som si sadu náhrdelník+náušnice na želanie)

Strom

 

 

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po víkende bez internetu len takto stručne:

keď už aj PhD comics je o rodičovstve:

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the tree with the apple tattoo

o snehových vločkách

nechcem, aby bol môj škôlkar gentleman – komentáre?

Free your workers, Yahoo!

Once upon a time, we lived in a world where men engaged in paid work and women stayed home and took care of the children, the elderly, the sick, and the disabled.” That’s not the world we live in now: Even in households with more than one adult, some form of paid work is rarely a “choice,” and someone still has to do the care work, usually on top of everything else. That someone is usually a woman, which is why state and city-level policies for paid sick days and family leave — the bare minimum of flexibility — are feminist issues.

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za komunistov sme sa mali lepšie…? (ale chýba tam bývanie)

rock’n rollová mapa Manhattanu

#NOTBUYINGIT: The Problem Is Far Bigger Than Audi’s #BraveryWins

At some point during the evening, the German company Audi debuted a PSA arguing against bodily autonomy, with some pretty transparent product placement snuck in…

How would your feelings have changed if the boy hadn’t been thin, white, and conventionally attractive? What if the commercial contained an epilogue where all the partygoers who ever felt attracted to the girl he kissed queued up behind him, waiting their turn? How would you feel if every single person who felt sexually attracted to you, regardless of your preferences or desire, felt entitled to spin you around and do whatever they pleased to you?

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free but not cheap

All the stuff that has to be done for kids, though, those things are jobs. Changing diapers, researching carseats, driving to soccer practice, washing clothes, catching vomit with your hand, putting to bed, filling out forms, searching out a replacement wubbie on the internet,  making lunches, making dinner, making breakfast, making snacks. Many of those tasks are not that brain-intensive, and are not valued highly, across all societies. That’s why a) motherhood sucks so much, b) it’s devalued so much, and c) wealthy women have always outsourced as many of those tasks as they could, until recently, so they got the relationship but not the jobs.

Do you want the relationship enough to suffer through the jobs? And that’s not a small question. The jobs almost break some of us. The jobs almost break almost all of us with kids under 3. And how you come through the jobs as your children age and the jobs change is not guaranteed, and it’s different for everyone.

mix and match parental leave plan (UK, od Zuziny)

  • New parents will be able to share 52 weeks of leave, taking time off together or alternating
  • Business groups warn the plan could create a headache for employers

Get to the Good Part: In Praise of Shortened Attention Spans

Potratové tabletky sa podieľajú na genocíde obyvateľstva – zatiaľ sa na Slovensku nedajú ani predpísať, ani kúpiť, ale už teraz majú ľudia ako tento bobky, že nebodaj by ženy mohli chcieť samy rozhodovať o sebe a svojich telách

Kuffa vyzval všetky ženy, aby tieto tabletky neužili, lebo sa nimi dejú dve veci. “Jednou tabletkou zabiješ svoju dušu a zabiješ telo dieťaťa. Je to vážna vec, má to psychosomatické dôsledky na matku. Táto tabletka znižuje dôstojnosť ženy a ohrozuje jej zdravie. Demografický vývoj je nepriaznivý a toto podmienky ešte zhorší. Nemôžeme sa podieľať na genocíde nášho obyvateľstva,” apeloval.

most women would rather divorce than be a housewife

Here’s some great news.  The vast majority of young people – about 80% of women and 70% of men across all races, classes, and family backgrounds — desire an egalitarian marriage in which both partners share breadwinning, housekeeping, and child rearing… In practice, however, egalitarian relationships are difficult to establish.  Both work and family are “greedy institutions,” ones that take up lots of time and energy.  Many couples find that, once children arrive, it’s impossible for both to do both with equal gusto. With this in mind, Gerson asked her respondents what type of family they would like if, for whatever reason, they couldn’t sustain an equal partnership.  She discovered that, while men’s and women’s ideals are very similar, their fallback positions deviate dramatically.

a ešte toto:

How to avoid rape

Nancy Pelosi o veku a ženách v kongrese

Keď sa jej Luke Russert na tlačovej konferencii spýtal, či nie je čas uvoľniť miesto mladším (video stojí za pozretie):

Let’s for the moment honor it as a legitimate question although it’s quite offensive but you don’t realize it I guess. The fact is that everything that I have done in my almost decade now of leadership is to elect younger and newer people to the Congress. In my own personal experience it was very important for me to elect young women. I came to Congress when my youngest child Alexandra was a senior in high school and practically on her way to college. I knew that my male colleagues had come when they were 30. They had a jump on me because they didn’t have to, children to stay home. Now, I did what I wanted to do, I was blessed to have that opportunity to sequentially raise my family and then come to Congress. But I wanted women to be here in greater numbers at an earlier age so that their seniority would start to account much sooner. And it wasn’t confined to women, though. […]

You’ve got to take off of that 14 years for me because I was home raising a family, getting the best experience of all in diplomacy, interpersonal skills. No, the answer is no.

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Nielenže nestíham písať, čo sa mi preháňa hlavou, nestíham ani len čítať, čo mám naškrečkované v bookmarks. Toto som mala odložené ešte od februára a natrafila som na to pri dnešnom upratovaní: Milý Oskar, aj ženy majú príbehy

In the highlights of [great] movies from the past few decades, there wasn’t a single clip of a woman doing something that related to her children, her friends, her work or her contribution to the world. There wasn’t a single clip of a woman leading, making a choice, making a decision or showing agency. There wasn’t even a single clip of a woman experiencing a moment of meaning or joy.

There wasn’t a single clip of a woman that didn’t have to do with either her romance with a man or with her getting attacked.

Here are the four things we hear from the women in the montage:

  1. We’re getting married in five hours! (Yelling angrily at fiance).
  2. Woman screaming in fear in shower
  3. Yes!…Yes!…Ohhhhh! (Meg Ryan faking her orgasm).
  4. I’ll have what she’s having. (Response to Meg Ryan’s fake orgasm).

Pozorovali Higgsov bozón, ktorý teoretický fyzik Peter Higgs predpovedal pred skoro 50timi rokmi. Alebo presnejšie povedané – časticu, ktorá by ním mohla byť.

všetkých 135 štartov raketoplánov naraz (video)

nevyčajné slová zaujímavo nakreslené

Angie Stevens @ Doodlemom parádne kreslí

breastfeedingthirteenmonths

(somewhat related: Môj otec bol včera na svadbe a po obrade čakali svadobčania pred reštauráciou, kedy dorazí nevesta, aby sa mohlo ísť dnu. Chvíľu to trvalo a keď potom zisťovali, že prečo, vysvitlo, že medzitým stíhala nakojiť svoju ročnú dcérku.)

o tom, akí sú v dnešnej dobe všetci zaneprázdnení

Even children are busy now, scheduled down to the half-hour with classes and extracurricular activities. They come home at the end of the day as tired as grown-ups. I was a member of the latchkey generation and had three hours of totally unstructured, largely unsupervised time every afternoon, time I used to do everything from surfing the World Book Encyclopedia to making animated films to getting together with friends in the woods to chuck dirt clods directly into one another’s eyes, all of which provided me with important skills and insights that remain valuable to this day. Those free hours became the model for how I wanted to live the rest of my life.

o menštruačných vložkách v Indii

When Arunachalam Muruganantham spotted his wife gathering dirty rags in their home one day he asked her what they were for. If he was shocked by her reluctant response – that she was using them for her monthly period – he was even more taken back by her reply when he asked why she was not buying sanitary napkins in the shop. “If I buy sanitary napkins,” she had told him. “It means I cannot afford to buy milk for the family.”

toto by teda nemuseli

a toto tiež nie – jazda na koni je jeden z mála športov, kde muži a ženy súťažia spolu a nie v oddelených kategóriách, ale zjavne aj tam sa treba postarať, aby sa nezabudlo na všetky stereotypy, ktoré sa dajú aplikovať. Keby išlo o muža, jeho úspech by bol pripisovaný talentu a tvrdej práci. Ide o ženu, takže je zjavne dôležité, ako vyzerá (nahá na koni), ako senzuálne sa vie ku koňovi pritisnúť. A ako ten obrázok pôsobí v kombinácii s prvou vetou. Nemám nič proti nahote ako takej, ale vadí mi, keď sú ženy brané ako objekty.

o slovách pre farby

The figure above is really telling a story. What it says is this. If a language has just two color terms, they will be a light and a dark shade – blacks and whites. Add a third color, and it’s going to be red. Add another, and it will be either green or yellow – you need five colors to have both. And when you get to six colors, the green splits into two, and you now have a blue. What we’re seeing here is a deeply trodden road that most languages seem to follow

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skutočné filmy – zoznam najlepších dokumentárnych, inštruktážnych, … jednoducho non-fiction filmov

200 rokov chirurgie

It would take a little while for surgeons to discover that the use of anesthesia allowed them time to be meticulous. Despite the advantages of anesthesia, Liston, like many other surgeons, proceeded in his usual lightning-quick and bloody way. Spectators in the operating-theater gallery would still get out their pocket watches to time him. The butler’s operation, for instance, took an astonishing 25 seconds from incision to wound closure. (Liston operated so fast that he once accidentally amputated an assistant’s fingers along with a patient’s leg, according to Hollingham. The patient and the assistant both died of sepsis, and a spectator reportedly died of shock, resulting in the only known procedure with a 300% mortality.)

možno si na to časom zvyknem, možno to ani nie je zlé, ale zatiaľ ma takéto články znepokojujú – používatelia Mac-ov a PC vidia iné výsedky vyhľadávania (na stránke Orbitz, keď hľadajú hotely)… skúste si tipnúť, komu sa zobrazia drahšie možnosti

5 profilov ľudí a ich pohľad na tých ostatných – každý ďalší je 5krát bohatší, ako ten predchádzajúci

na Islande boli včera voľby (Thóra Arnórsdóttir ich nevyhrala)

As Icelanders go to the polls on Saturday to decide on their next president, the sitting candidate faces a challenge from an unlikely contender – a 37-year-old mother of three, with a newborn baby…

It’s not Thora who is carrying the baby, but her partner of eight years, Svavar, with whom she has two other children, aged six and four…

“She comes everywhere with us. We’ve always divided duties at home: we’ve both been working in full-time jobs and Icelandic women have always worked no matter how many children they have and that won’t change. It doesn’t matter what the job is or if they’re called ‘president’.”

island

Pink tweetovala fotku zo svojho turné – kojí na nej svoju dcéru

rodinné portréty cez skype

človek vraj má menej predsudkov/biases keď rozmýšľa v cudzom jazyku – akurát je podľa mňa na mieste otázka, nakoľko to závisí od toho, ako ten daný jazyk ovláda; a nakoľko je s tým prepletená kultúra krajiny, kde sa hovorí daným jazykom

o princezničkovských topánkach a o tom, ako sa dievčatá hrajú vonku – alebo zväzovanie chodidiel 2012

Boys learn “to use their bodies in skilled ways, and this gives them a good sense of their physical capacities and limits…. Girls hold themselves back from full, complete movement, Although it’s usually something girls are unaware of, they actually learn to hamper their movements, developing a ‘body timidity that increases with age.’

Michelle Obama o materstve

Pôvodne som myslela, že tieto dva citáty z rozhovoru z Michelle Obamovou sem dám len tak, bez komentára, ako som to už párkrát s citátmi urobila. Ale nedá mi ich tu dať spolu a nepoznamenať, že blízky mi je iba jeden z nich (ten druhý).

Na tomto prvom mi vadí to, čo som už tu a tam spomínala – že (vo všeobecnosti) sa otcov život po narodení detí nezmení až tak radikálne ako matkin. A že by to nemal byť len jej problém, keď potrebuje čas pre seba. Dobre, prezidentovi udelím výnimku… ale vtedy prezidentom ešte nebol, tak prečo to má byť ona, kto bude vstávať o pol piatej ráno, aby naplnila nejakú svoju potrebu? Podľa mňa ten hnev je oprávnený a je škoda, že hovorí o tom, že ho potlačila a bola to ona, kto sa prispôsobil.

O tom, čo sa ženy môžu naučiť od mužov

Začalo to, keď sa narodila Malia… a všimla som si, že manžel si stále mohol zašportovať, akoby to bol zázrak… namiesto toho, aby som sa kvôli tomu na to hnevala, čo bola moja prvá reakcia – a aj som sa krátku dobu naozaj hnevala – tak som začala rozmýšľať prečo som naštvatá naňho? On robí to, čo potrebuje, čo znamená zorganizuje si svoj deň tak, aby všetko stíhal, a ja sa zariadim podľa toho.

Vtedy som začala hovoriť, že musím robiť to, čo robí on. Nemôžem byť naňho nahnevaná za to, čo robí, namiesto toho musím prísť na to, ako si to zariadiť a ako si zohnať pomoc, ktorú potrebujem. Vtedy som začala športovať šialene zavčasu ráno. Vstávala som o pol piatej, aby som si mohla zašportovať. A keď som sa vrátila, nikto nezomrel. Bábo sa malo fajn, všetci boli spokojní, neviem, možno preplakala celú hodinu, to som nevedela, ale mala sa fajn.

Ale tento sa mi naozaj veľmi páčil. Preto, že je to aj pre mňa tak, a preto, že trochu ľutujem, že som k tomu (tomu? životu?) takto nepristupovala už dávno. Nie je to vzdávanie sa, ale také prijatie toho, že veci sa jednoducho budú stávať a zariadim sa podľa toho, ako sa mi to práve bude zdať najlepšie:

O tom, ako sa všetko zmení, keď sa stanete mamou 

A hovorím mladým ženám, že sa budú nejako cítiť dnes a potom budú mať dieťa a budú sa cítiť úplne inak. A potom budú mať dve a bude to zase iné. A potom, keď sa dostanú do istého veku, tak sa budú cítiť zase inak. A o pár rokov zase inak. Je to veľmi plynulé. A zároveň ma to upokojuje v tom zmysle, že viem, že potrebujem zisťovať, čo pre mňa funguje v každom danom čase.

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