V poslednej dobe som natrafila na kopu work-life balance článkov, ale veľa z nich sa mi zdá nanič. Toto je naopak jeden z tých, ktoré stoja za prečítanie.
a problem of all people–the economy, stupid–is turned into a problem of women. And when women can’t magically solve this problem, any choice they make is given a negative moral weight. The media-concocted mommy wars (which Warner is a long-time participant in) rely on attributing moral judgment to acts that are more often financial survival. Warner uses the word “haunted” multiple times to describe their feelings, and attributes this to their inability to use their “prodigious powers of control” on all aspects of their lives, as if by choosing to opt out they’d given up control. Most women don’t have anything like an actual choice, and even the ones who do shouldn’t be blamed for having only the options they have.
There is a secret to maintaining your friendships, and I am entirely serious about this: when a friend has a kid, assume that you will see that friend primarily, perhaps only, for dinner at their house or apartment for the next seven to ten years. If they have more than one kid, the clock resets with each new one. Oh, and most of the time, you have to invite yourself over. And you may have to bring the food.
solo exploration is one of the best ways to learn and challenge oneself. It’s a great way to re-center, to escape from the details of daily life that can distract us from our own big picture and to come back with a new sense of self-sufficiency and purpose. And “solo exploration” doesn’t have to mean a ticket to Thailand. It can be an hour of quiet meditation, a regular dinner out, a beer at your favorite bar, your morning run down a new route, an evening in a dark movie theater. It means doing something alone that you’d usually do paired, in a way that forces you to make all the decisions and simply be with yourself.
“We are facing an epidemic of women who feel unworthy of being called beautiful,” Beall told HuffPost, describing a world in which “nearly all of us struggle to feel beautiful in our own skin.” And the expectations faced by women who have given birth are particularly harsh. “Shaming mothers for not ‘bouncing back’ after childbirth can cause feelings of failure when being a mother is challenging enough and when a big number of us have already lived a life of feeling un-beautiful prior to giving birth,” she says.